Confessions of a People Pleaser...

 I am at my core a self professed people pleaser. Always have been and most likely always will be. I am a healer, a fixer by nature. 

It's in my DNA and no matter how burned out I am, I am always trying to help those around me.

But, here is the million dollar question....

Who is going to fix me when I burnout?

I will allow a moment of silence while you ponder this.

Now, keep in mind that the people I am trying to heal are for the most part broken as well.

In case you have not figured this out, there is nobody to provide the support I need on a consistent basis in order to heal. There are people who try, but, truthfully I need more. I really do. I am not being selfish, I am being honest. You can't give and give and give for years on end and not expect it to take a toll on you emotionally and physically. 

There's no getting around it. It is going to happen and it's NOT pretty!

Right now, I am in the midst of a season of burnout. I say season because sometimes people think "Oh yeah, I've been burned out before." 

It's not that simple and it took a while to get here. There have been numerous little burnouts paving the way for this one. Now, I truly am exhausted most days and that is not a good thing for anyone.

That's it in a nutshell. So, how does one come back from burnout?

There are so many wonderful suggestions on how to do so—but, you cannot do all of them simultaneously or you will keep burning out, adding fuel to your already raging inferno!

I think it all has to do with the individual and their needs. Right now I know I need to rest in order to heal. I often think about this and consider it, but rarely do it. I am too busy to stop and my people need me.

Sometimes, your body takes over and forces you to rest. I am on a hard rest this week. The kind where I injured myself and it's essential for me to take it easy in order for it to heal and not become worse. I have been resting and icing and do see a difference. Of course I naturally want to hop back in the toxic pool of people pleasing now that I feel a bit better, but, I am forcing myself to take the entire week off to heal.

I also need to write in order to heal. I have wanted to continue my writing for quite some time, but, don't set any real time aside to do so. I am now. I have to. Writing lights me up and will do wonders to battle burnout. Writing outside in the sunshine is a wonderful thing as well. 

Those are steps one and two. There are more, but, for now I just keep swimming 💗